Being Present and Finding Joy

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It’s been a hot minute since I’ve gotten back from the bachelorette weekend for my sister in Florida and her wedding in South Carolina. ๐ŸŒด What a week!! So much to do, so much to plan for, and so much to celebrate. ๐Ÿ’

My sister and brother-in-law said their vows to each other, surrounded by people that loved them dearly. ๐Ÿ’ As I listened to those vows yesterday, and watched the father-daughter, and mother-son dances, my heart filled with emotion for so many reasons. I was reminded of God’s love for us and His desire to see us happy, loving each other fully and following wholeheartedly after Him. I was also reminded that my husband and I made these same commitments to each other five years ago.
Much has changed in our lives since then, but one thing that has remained unchanged is God’s love for Josh and I. And it’s been because of that love that we are always working on our relationship together, and doing our utmost to always extend grace and love to each other as Christ does to us, His church. ๐Ÿ’’

Knowing that my husband will be leaving for a deployment in four short months, has been, frankly, overwhelming. I haven’t known how to process it. Apparently I’ve been holding too much inside, trying to be all, “Oh, that is just part of army life” because it all came out in waves during this past week of wedding prep and festivities. I’d cry at the drop of a hat the moment anyone talked about his upcoming deployment, or anytime I spoke of our plans for this year. ๐ŸŒง

JOY and PRESENT Those were the words I chose for this year. To find joy in everything I can, and to be as present as possible in the moment, not looking back and not trying to rush to the next future thing. This year, those words will be very challenging to me, but I trust God has a plan. His ways are better than mine, and yet again I must remind myself to, “Be at rest once more, O my soul, for the Lord has been good to you”. Psalm 116:7

My Christmas Gift|An Announcement

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“I still remember the days I prayed for the things I have now” | My husband is promotable to Major, AND we are expecting our second child.ย  This month has been so FULL of blessings (including the gift of experiencing life daily with our 2 year old!) that I have hardly known how to pray without starting out with, “Thank you Jesus…again!”ย  I remember going through a time of real darkness years ago.ย  Not around me, just inside me.ย  That darkness caused sadness (depression) and it blinded me to every blessing I had.ย  Only when I began to look around and truly see how many things I had to be happy about (even just the basic things like health and a home!) did my thought process completely transformย and Iย no longer saw my life through my sadness because God had replaced it with JOY.ย  The joy that transforms your heart and your soul.ย ย I deserve nothing that the Lord has given me but I am thankful BEYOND measure for all He has CHOSEN for me.ย  And so this Christmas I am thankful for family. For babies. For life. And for life eternal from the one who sent His son so that we may know love and life everlasting.
Merry Christmas everyone!ย  And God bless. โค
P.S. “Baby D” is due in August!!

 

How to Reset a Rough Morning

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Sometimes our days just don’t go as planned.ย  We start out with all the best intentions, only to snap or break before it is even noon.ย  When that happens, it is important to remember a couple things…
First, you are human and we ALL have bad days so don’t be so hard on yourself.ย  Second, you can have another chance to start over.
Here are a couple ways to reset when you need a little extra help to get your day back on the right track.
  • ย Make yourself some tea or coffee and sip it slowly.ย  Literally stop everything you are doing and s-l-o-w-l-y sip that warm liquid, reflecting on how you want your day to be different going forward.ย  I always say a short (or long!) prayer, asking God for His wisdom, forgiveness and the courage to move forward and begin again.
  • Go for a nature walk.ย  Stop and smell the roses–really!ย  Pick up those multi-colored autumn leaves and admire God’s handiwork.ย  Remember how everything fascinated us when we were children?
  • Read a good book.ย ย  Find a book/devotional that speaks to your heart and read, even if it is just for 15 minutes.ย  It will be a wonderful refresher.ย  I have read five minute devotionals before that were are huge encouragement to me and exactly what I needed for that day.
  • Do a quick workout.ย  Anything that gets the body moving for even 15 minutes can really boost your mood.ย  I like to use the YouTube feature on my TV and pull up a yoga video in my living room and workout there.ย  Sometimes my daughter even joins in. ๐Ÿ˜‰
Sometimes the reason for our day getting off to a poor start, is because we go into it with our mental checklist of duties and try to immediately knock out each one, unintentionally ignoring the people who need us the most.ย  I have been guilty of this.ย  When my daughter seems to be misbehaving, and all I want to do is sweep the floor without stopping in the middle of it to clean all the milk she just poured out of her sippy cup, the real issue is that she just needs some one-on-one time.ย  It is okay to leave the dishes in the sink and the floor half swept sometimes, so that our children get to enjoy time spent with us fully present.ย  Often it is all that they want.ย  So on those mornings that you just need a fresh start, maybe a long walk with your child/children is the perfect choice (or cuddling up on the couch for a good book).ย  Those are moments that children file away in their ‘love banks’.ย  Moments that you will always treasure.ย  The dishes can wait.